We've come to that point!

Today was the day I had to make it into court to listen to a judge declare me officially divorced. It wasn't at all like I expected. It was a private meeting in the judge's chambers. He looked over my paperwork and then said it would be filed and it was done. My attorney said to me on the steps of the courthouse, "Most people are elated when this day finally gets here and you're not...." I told her that today was just like having a birthday. It's just another day. The only difference is that I had to get up early, had someone watch my kids and talk with a judge! I guess in my mind John and I have acted divorced since I moved out and accepted that our marriage was over. So this finalization day wasn't really a big issue for me.

My attorney says we'll probably be back in court sometime within the first year only because he will try to get at me with something or one of us will really mess up and be held in contempt. I hope she's wrong, honestly. I really just want to have things be peaceful; he calls to talk to the kids only, is on time with picking them up and dropping them off, is flexible with schedules and everything else as I plan to be.

I've actually been really relaxed today. Tonight I plan on sitting around in the house in my pj's, the kids in bed early since we've had play dates the last 3 days with friends, watching some DVR shows and drinking tea with some popcorn. Sounds like a good plan!